The marriage relationship is the most expressive of how we act with regard to heavenly things. The situations Moses presents here are all deviations from God’s blueprint for marriage. They show what man is capable of in the most intimate relationship. The marriage relationship is a picture of the connection between God and His earthly people Israel, and also of the connection between the Lord Jesus and the church, the heavenly people.
There are practical and spiritual lessons to be learned for us personally and for the church. In verse 1313“If any man takes a wife and goes in to her and [then] turns against her, it becomes immediately clear what the order is: first marry and only then sexual intercourse. Sexual intercourse can only exist if man and woman first are a married couple. All sexual intercourse outside being a married couple is fornication.
In verses 13-2113“If any man takes a wife and goes in to her and [then] turns against her,14and charges her with shameful deeds and publicly defames her, and says, ‘I took this woman, [but] when I came near her, I did not find her a virgin,’15then the girl’s father and her mother shall take and bring out the [evidence] of the girl’s virginity to the elders of the city at the gate.16The girl’s father shall say to the elders, ‘I gave my daughter to this man for a wife, but he turned against her;17and behold, he has charged her with shameful deeds, saying, “I did not find your daughter a virgin.” But this is the evidence of my daughter’s virginity.’ And they shall spread the garment before the elders of the city.18So the elders of that city shall take the man and chastise him,19and they shall fine him a hundred [shekels] of silver and give it to the girl’s father, because he publicly defamed a virgin of Israel. And she shall remain his wife; he cannot divorce her all his days.20“But if this charge is true, that the girl was not found a virgin,21then they shall bring out the girl to the doorway of her father’s house, and the men of her city shall stone her to death because she has committed an act of folly in Israel by playing the harlot in her father’s house; thus you shall purge the evil from among you. the case occurs of a man who gets an aversion from his wife. He accuses her of previous fellowship with another man. The accusation may be false. This will become clear when the girl’s parents can provide the evidence of her innocence. In that case, the man is disciplined, has to pay a fine and may never send her away.
If the accusation turns out to be true, the girl must be stoned in front of the doorway of her father’s house. Until her marriage she is attached to her father’s house. So, in connection with her father’s house, she committed this act of folly. The fact that the death penalty must be carried out in order to eliminate evil from the midst of Israel shows how seriously God takes this act of folly.
The prescription in these verses is a protection against false accusation by the man. The prescription ensures that a man does not deal with his wife out of arbitrariness. With such a regulation, he will be careful to falsely blame his wife.
We can apply these verses to the relationship between God and His people. It is a question of becoming manifest whether His people are faithful to Him or unfaithful. For God this is not a question. Of course He knows that perfectly. For Him, there is no need for such a search. He certainly does not act arbitrarily.
The question is whether our spiritual parents – not we ourselves – can provide the proofs of our loyalty to God or not. If we have surrendered to things that are not connected with Christ, the proofs of our ‘virginity’ cannot be provided. The opposite will be the case. Unfaithfulness is in connection with our past life, without God and without Christ. This should be recognized and judged as such. Virginity represents a principle that applies to every believer. It means that there is no fellowship with persons or teachings who are not in fellowship with Christ (Rev 14:44These are the ones who have not been defiled with women, for they have kept themselves chaste. These [are] the ones who follow the Lamb wherever He goes. These have been purchased from among men as first fruits to God and to the Lamb.; 2Cor 11:2-32For I am jealous for you with a godly jealousy; for I betrothed you to one husband, so that to Christ I might present you [as] a pure virgin.3But I am afraid that, as the serpent deceived Eve by his craftiness, your minds will be led astray from the simplicity and purity [of devotion] to Christ.).
Christ will soon tell the false church that it she not virginal. The false Christian church, the great Babylon, the roman catholic church, which pretends to be the bride of Christ, is called “the great whore” and “the mother of the whores” (Rev 17:1,51Then one of the seven angels who had the seven bowls came and spoke with me, saying, “Come here, I will show you the judgment of the great harlot who sits on many waters,5and on her forehead a name [was] written, a mystery, “BABYLON THE GREAT, THE MOTHER OF HARLOTS AND OF THE ABOMINATIONS OF THE EARTH.”). The false accusations against those who wish to be faithful to the Lord will then turn out to be unfounded. Proof will be provided.